Okay, guys, help me out with something. This might seem like a really stupid question, especially considering the business I'm in, but what exactly is "hardcore"?
People often use the word, and when they do, they seem to expect that the listener will understand exactly what they mean, with no ambiguity or possibility of confusion. I hear it a lot from fans: "when's the next hardcore video?" I hear it a lot from potential players when I ask about their limits: "no hardcore." Okay, so straight-up boy-girl sex is hardcore, i think everyone agrees on that. What about blowjobs? Handjobs? Girl-on-girl sex? Girl-on-girl sex with a strap-on? Guy-on-girl oral? Girl-on-girl oral? Anal plugs? Fingering? Anal fingering? Vibrator without penetration? Vibrator with penetration? Are any of these things hardcore, and if so, which?
Is there really universal agreement on this question, and I've just never learned the answer? Or is it appropriate for me to respond to a girl who says, "I won't risk doing hardcore" with "just what the hell do you mean by that?"